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By the time couples come in to see a therapist, they are usually in the thick of relationship distress and disconnection. The perpetual problems that have existed for years have typically gone unresolved, often creating acute distress within the relationship.  Couples often enter therapy once feelings of hopelessness, resentment and estrangement define their connection.

Research shows that the average couple waits at least 6 years before seeking counseling for issues that are threatening their relationship bond. Many wait until they are on the brink of separation or divorce before seeking counseling. At Thrive Psychotherapy, my goal is to help couples excavate the lessons learned from their struggles in order to build a new partnership that is mutually healing and nourishing. It is for this reason that I have pursued extensive training in both Gottman Method Couples Therapy and Emotion Focused Couple Therapy (EFT).  Both methods are highly effective  and based on decades of extensive research on couples. By  using these proven interventions in therapy, we will work to change negative patterns of communication,  increase intimacy and trust,  create a more secure bond, and help build a solid foundation of friendship and emotional connection. Couples  will be able to learn highly effective tools that they can take straight from the therapy session to their daily lives in order to build a happier and healthier relationship. For couples struggling with the discovery of infidelity, we will begin our work with a structured affair recovery process in order to begin the repair work needed to rebuild trust and create a newer and healthier version of your relationship.  

 

Some of the issues that may be explored in couples therapy include but are not limited to:

  • Poor communication

  • Infidelity

  • Parenting conflict

  • Intimacy issues 

  • Emotional distance

  • Conflict and argument management

  • Lack of shared meaning and interest

  • Dealing with the aftermath of trauma 

  • Loss of friendship in the relationship 

    FOR A DETAILED EXPLANATION OF AFFAIR RECOVERY, VISIT THIS PAGE

 
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Individuals seek therapy and coaching services for a variety of reasons. I have spent my professional career as a Licensed Professional Counselor, working with adult clients across a diverse range of issues, including; trauma, PTSD, depression, anxiety, addiction, low self esteem, parenting stress, chronic health conditions, relationship conflict, intimacy issues, life transitions, grief, stress management and LGBTQ support. 

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In individual therapy, we work as a team to uncover and heal the issues that prevent you from living an empowered and intentional life. Together we can explore current life issues, feelings, behaviors and ingrained negative beliefs that you keep you from living the life that you want.   We will work through your current challenges and you will learn to look at suffering as a call to courage, personal growth, and authentic living. It is my goal to give you concrete tools that you can walk away with to enhance your life and relationships. I use an eclectic approach, blending Existential, Client-Centered, Emotion-focused and Internal Family Systems perspectives. 

 
 
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The Seven Principles Workshop for Couples is based on the internationally acclaimed work of Dr. John Gottman as presented in his New York Times bestselling book The Seven Principles of Making Marriage Work. This psychoeducational workshop is designed to help couples improve intimacy, grow their friendship, and enhance conflict management skills. Strong relationships don’t just happen at random. They are the result of daily, informed, and intentional work. As your workshop leader my goal is to provide you with practical tools to improve your relationship while having you understand the research behind what helps couples form lasting and nourishing bonds. This workshop is not about sharing personal marital problems in a group setting. We focus on teaching the principles and giving you and your partner opportunities to practice with one another.  The Seven Principles Workshop combines teaching and demonstrations with one-on-one work sessions where you and your partner can practice core concepts. This is a psychoeducational group workshop, not group therapy, thus,  participants will be not be asked to share their personal problems in front of others.

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Pre-marital Therapy

Premarital counseling is an excellent tool to help couples strengthen their relationship as they enter into marriage. Research shows that couples who have undergone premarital counseling, report not only higher levels of marital satisfaction, but also a 30% higher marital success rate.  Using both Gottman Method  Couples Therapy and EFT techniques, I help couples  create a secure bond for a happy and lasting relationship .  As a part of our work together, we will identify and address potential areas of conflict in your relationship, before they turn into perpetual problems in your marriage.

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 Couples will be coached on healthy communication techniques in order to manage conflict and express core needs. Therapy sessions will also be used to explore beliefs and expectations pertaining to marriage and to create a shared vision for partnership.

Some issues that may be addressed in premarital counseling include conflict pertaining to:

 

  • Finances, child-rearing, roles, career goals

  • Affection, intimacy and sex

  • Managing extended family and in-law relationships 

  • Learning healthy conflict management and communication skills

  • Creating a shared vision and goals for the relationship

  • Addressing fears pertaining to marriage and commitment

  • Navigating cultural and / or religious differences